AIR24.INFO

Skill conversational social dating No. black wins

PLEASE VOTE FOR PBIS WORLD
in the FedEx Small Business Grant Contest. The grant would fund an initiative to update all the broken links on this site and in The PBIS World Book with fresh new resources!VOTE NOW!

Teach Relationship Skills

Teach Relationship Skills

Why should I do it:

  • Interpersonal skills are an important part of students’ development
  • Improves self-esteem
  • Increases student buy-in
  • Creates a more cohesive class and group
  • Helps students help one another
  • Increases instructional time
  • Decreases time spent repeating directions, rehashing lessons, etc
  • Improves students’ moods, affect, and emotional stability
  • Helps students to interact with adults
  • Helps students to elicit help from teachers and others
  • Teaches students important life skills for dealing with others
  • Reduces conflicts, arguing, and fighting
  • Improves the environment of the room/school
  • Helps students make and keep friends
  • Improves coping skills
  • Increases self-confidence

When should I do it:

  • All students can benefit from being taught relationship skills
  • With students who seem to be “loners”
  • With students that are frequently involved or starting or taking part in drama
  • With students that say no one likes them or they have no friends
  • With students who have trouble asking for help
  • When students seem socially awkward
  • When students cannot get along with others
  • When students instigate, annoy, bug, etc, others
  • With students who are immature
  • When other students shun, avoid, or ostracize others
  • When students bully or are bullied
  • When students create or spread rumors
  • When students have trouble sharing, compromising, listening to others’ opinions, etc
  • When students seem intolerant of others

How do I do it:

  • IMPORTANT NOTE!
    • At the Tier 1 Level, think of doing relationship skills lessons and interventions for the whole class or groups
    • At the Tier 2 level, think of doing relationship skills lessons and interventions for groups and individuals
    • At the Tier 3 level, think of customizing specific relationship skills lessons and interventions for specific students
  • Use any opportunity to model and role play relationship skills, like when a student name calls and others choose not to play with them, when a student shares, when a student helps another, etc
  • Teach lessons on relationships, friendships, getting along with others, tolerance, etc
  • Take students aside to discuss and have them reflect on how their behaviors affect others, what behaviors would make others want to be friends with them, etc
  • Have students partner up and work on projects together
  • Assign work partners
  • Help kids set goals with making friends or getting to know others
  • Try the supports and resources below

Resources & Support for technique:
(Items with footnotes link to external websites)

Footnotes:

  1. Health and Life. 50 Tips on How to Make Friends. [http://healthlifeandstuff.com/2009/07/24-ways-to-make-friends-improve-relationships/].
  2. Stevenson, J. Six Friendship Rules to Live By
    Friendship advice and tips for teens. [http://teenadvice.about.com/od/friends/tp/friendship_rules.htm].
  3. Webster, J. A Social Skills Lesson – What is a Friend Launching a Unit on Friendship with Students with Social Deficits. [http://specialed.about.com/od/characterbuilding/a/Whatfriend.htm].
  4. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: CARING / COMPASSION for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Caring.html].
  5. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: CARING for grades 4-8. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/chron/caring.html].
  6. Salls, K. Empathy 101: Ten Commandments Of Human Relationships. [http://www.earthlingcommunication.com/a/interpersonal-skills/tips-starting-new-maintaining-relationships.php].
  7. The Dibble Institute. Facts About Dating Violence. [www.dibbleinstitute.org/Documents/Dating_Violence_Flier-2-1.pdf].
  8. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: FAIRNESS / JUSTICE for grades 4-8. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/chron/fairness.html].
  9. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: FAIRNESS / JUSTICE for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Fairness.html].
  10. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: Friendship for grades 5-9. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/Friendship.html].
  11. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: Getting Along with Parents for grades 5-9. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/Parents.html].
  12. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: HONESTY for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Honesty.html].
  13. Scott, E. (2008). Build Friendships With Good Listening Skills. [http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/ht/howtolisten.htm].
  14. Succeed Socially. How to Make Friends And Get a Social Life. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/sociallife].
  15. Oliveri, D. (2007). How to Make Friends at School: Helping Your Pre-teen Overcome Shyness. [http://deniseoliveri.suite101.com/how-to-make-friends-at-school-a19774].
  16. Wiki How. How to Socialize, Be Funny and Make Friends. [http://www.wikihow.com/Socialize,-Be-Funny-and-Make-Friends].
  17. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: INTEGRITY for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Integrity.html].
  18. North Carolina State University Counseling Center. Interpersonal Skills. [http://healthcenter.ncsu.edu/counseling-center/resources/mental-health-and-wellness-topics/interpersonal-skills/].
  19. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Friendship. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1636&np=286].
  20. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Making Friends. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1705&np=286].
  21. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Peer group pressure. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1822&np=286].
  22. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Peer Groups. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1825&np=286].
  23. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Prejudice – not giving a ‘fair go’. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=2348&np=286].
  24. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Problems with the teacher. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1586&np=286].
  25. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. Teasing others and how to stop. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=1625&np=286].
  26. Women’s and Children’s Health Network, Child and Youth Health. What is diversity. [http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetailsKids.aspx?p=335&id=2345&np=286].
  27. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: Preventing Conflicts & Violence for grades 5-9. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/PreventingConflicts.html].
  28. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: RESPECT for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Respect.html].
  29. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: RESPECT for grades 4-8. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/chron/respect.html].
  30. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: Respecting Others for grades 5-9. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/RespectingOthers.html].
  31. Webster, J. Social Skills Lesson Plan — Initiating Interaction With Peers: Brainstorming, Scripting and Rehearsal for Social Success. [http://specialed.about.com/od/characterbuilding/a/socialskillsinitiate.htm].
  32. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: Speaking of Sex for grades 5-9. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/SpeakingSex.html].
  33. Dewar, G. (2009). Teaching empathy: Evidence-based tips for fostering empathy in children. [http://www.parentingscience.com/teaching-empathy-tips.html].
  34. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: TRUSTWORTHINESS (including HONESTY) for grades 7-12. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/ISOC/Trustworthiness.html].
  35. Elkind+Sweet Communications, Inc. Teaching Guide: TRUSTWORTHINESS for grades 4-8. [http://www.goodcharacter.com/chron/trust.html].
  36. The Empathy Symbol: a symbol for today. Teaching Empathy. [http://www.empathysymbol.com/EmpathyInTheSchools.htm].
  37. Autism 4 Teachers. Social Skills. [http://www.autism4teachers.com/autism4teachers_008.htm].
  38. Texas Statewide Leadership for Autism. (2010). PLAY SKILLS-BASED INTERVENTIONS. [www.txautism.net/docs/Guide/Interventions/PlaySkillsBased.pdf].
  39. Contra Costa County Office of Education. Social Skills for Middle School Students. [http://www.cccoe.net/social/skillslist.htm].
  40. Hyde, R. How to Get Children to Overcome Shyness. [http://www.ehow.com/video_4440800_children-overcome-shyness.html].
  41. All Business. Ten Ways to Improve Your Interpersonal Skills. [http://www.allbusiness.com/improve-interpersonal-skills/15606969-1.html
    ].
  42. Succeed Socially. Things To Do With Other People. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/activities].
  43. Succeed Socially. Search: Dealing with anxiety & shyness in social situations and relationships. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/.search?results_page=searchresults.html&query=anxious+anxiety&name=Search].
  44. Succeed Socially. At Times It’s Socially Practical To Know Things Other People Care About. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/practicalskills].
  45. Succeed Socially. Some Ways People Can Excuse Their Legitimate Social Weaknesses. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/honest].
  46. Succeed Socially. Is Thinking You’re Better Than Other People Holding You Back Socially?. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/negativetoothers].
  47. Succeed Socially. Generally Improving Your Social Skills. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/index#socialskills].
  48. Succeed Socially. Search: Coping With Nervousness. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/.search?results_page=searchresults.html&query=Nervousness&name=Search].
  49. Succeed Socially. Dealing With Regrets Caused By Your Poor People Skills. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/regrets].
  50. Succeed Socially. Thoughts On How To Make Conversation. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/conversation].
  51. Succeed Socially. Hanging Out With New People Who All Know Each Other. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/groups].
  52. Succeed Socially. How Being Less Naturally Social Can Affect Your Interpersonal Success. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/lesssocial].
  53. Succeed Socially. How To Be More Friendly And Social. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/friendly].
  54. Succeed Socially. How To Be More Fun. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/morefun].
  55. Succeed Socially. How To Meet People. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/meetpeople].
  56. Succeed Socially. How To Talk To Shyer and/or Less Social People. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/shytalk].
  57. Succeed Socially. How Your Interests Can Affect Your Social Success. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/interests].
  58. Succeed Socially. Common Worries Shy Or Insecure People Have. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/shyworries].
  59. Succeed Socially. Is Bitterness Holding You Back Socially?. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/bitterness].
  60. Succeed Socially. Is It Okay To Hang Out With Another Guy One On One?. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/oneononewithguys].
  61. Succeed Socially. Is Thinking You’re Better Than Other People Holding You Back Socially?. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/negativetoothers].
  62. Succeed Socially. Learning To Make More Eye Contact With People. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/eyecontact].
  63. Succeed Socially. Little Social Annoyances That Will Never Go Away. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/annoyances].
  64. Succeed Socially. Loosen Up To Be More Socially Successful. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/loosenup].
  65. Succeed Socially. Making Plans With People. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/plans].
  66. Succeed Socially. Mistakes Lonely People Often Make. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/lonely].
  67. Succeed Socially. My Experience With Becoming More Self-Confident. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/confidence].
  68. Succeed Socially. Other People Often Aren’t As Shallow As They Seem. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/relate].
  69. Succeed Socially. It’s Very Tricky To Know What You Want Socially. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/knowwhatyouwant].
  70. Succeed Socially. Reflections on Being Defensive and Secretive. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/defensive].
  71. Succeed Socially. Reflections On Getting Over Low Self-Esteem. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/selfesteem].
  72. Succeed Socially. Some Interpersonal Pitfalls More Intellectual Types Can Fall Into. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/intellectual].
  73. Succeed Socially. Some Thoughts On The Point Of Small Talk. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/smalltalk].
  74. Succeed Socially. Some Tips On How To Be Less Quiet In Conversations. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/quiet].
  75. Succeed Socially. Some Ways People Are Mentally Lazy About Judging Others. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/judge].
  76. Succeed Socially. The Importance of Getting Your Appearance In Order. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/lookbetter].
  77. Succeed Socially. The Importance Of Simplicity And The Basics In Social Interactions…. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/simplicity].
  78. Succeed Socially. Meeting People & Making Friends. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/index#makingfriends].
  79. Succeed Socially. Thoughts On How To Be Funny. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/funny].
  80. Succeed Socially. Thoughts On How to Be More Interesting. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/interesting].
  81. Succeed Socially. Thoughts On How To Make A Conversation. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/conversation].
  82. Succeed Socially. Thoughts on Seeming Less Weird. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/weird].
  83. Succeed Socially. How To Mingle And Talk To People At Parties. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/howtomingleatparties].
  84. Succeed Socially. Ways People Can Unintentionally Leave Friends Out Of Social Events. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/unintentionalleftout].
  85. Succeed Socially. When People Say “How’s It Going?”, “What’s Up?” or “What’s New?”. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/howareyou].
  86. Succeed Socially. When You Feel Like Your Friends Suck. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/suckyfriends].
  87. Succeed Socially. Why You Need To Directly Practice Your Social Skills And How To Do It. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/socialskills].
  88. Succeed Socially. When Your Friends Tease You A Lot. [http://www.succeedsocially.com/tease].
http://www.pbisworld.com/tier-2/teach-relationship-skills/